5 things to remember when you’re feeling stuck

5 things to remember when you’re feeling stuck

Feeling stuck in a non-productive mindset?

We’ve all been there.

It’s so frustrating when the hand-brake of life jams tight and we just CAN’T. MOVE. FORWARD.  We retreat.  Lose confidence in our own abilities.  Motivation slips.  Negativity creeps in.  We lose focus of our life goals.

Obstacles, both big and small, both mental and physical, are a part of life and as the saying goes, ‘obstacles do not block the path, they are the path’.  We just have to work out ways to navigate around them.

Over the weekend, I completed my 5th Ironman Challenge in Port Macquarie.  I’ve been preparing for months.  The early mornings, constant training, and juggling of time so I could ensure my body, and mind were ready for the challenge feel very worth it today.  My family has made sacrifices too.  Ironman is a selfish sport and I never lose site of how my family suffers with that.   Through this journey I’ve had to remain positive, driven and determined to do my absolute best.  Pushing through the boundaries, ensuring my mindset and thoughts were in line with what I wanted to achieve.  In five weeks I’m off to Cairns to compete again.  This will put me in the running for one of the nine spots up for grabs in Hawaii.  My goal is to get there.  Although I’m sure it wont come without its’ hurdles, I’m determined.

There are daily challenges too.  I’m a husband, father, entrepreneur, business owner, property coach and property investor.  All of these roles come with their struggles at times.  But work/life balance and a lifestyle that serves my family is of utmost importance to me.

Today I wanted to share with you some of the key things that help propel me (and my clients) forward on a day to day basis.  Even when the going gets a little tough.  I hope these five tips give you some hope and courage to release your own blocks and start moving forward again.


  1. Get re-focused

    Easy said, right?!  It’s actually not that hard.  Write down what you want.  Really think about it.  Get detailed.  This clears up any confusion about where you want to be and what you want to achieve.  If you’re flying along blindly, doing and achieving becomes so much harder.  Overwhelming.  This will help get you back on track and is the first step towards getting un-stuck.

  2. You really can do ANYTHING, but not EVERYTHING

    You are the master of your own destiny and really, you can do whatever you want.  But the time you have for ‘whatever you want’ is limited.  Figure out what’s most important.  Is it family time?  Is it setting yourself up for a better future?  Is it lifestyle?  Is it owning your own home?  Is it sending your child to a private school?  Thinking of all these things at once (or even one!) can be overwhelming, but they’re all possible with the right mindset.  Seek help and guidance if you need a plan on how to get there.  You don’t have to do it alone and there are many professionals who can help you follow the right path to achieving your dreams.

  3. Someday is not a day of the week

    So you’ve written it all down.  You know where you’re headed and where you’ve been.  Now it’s time to take action.  Work out the steps, set a date and keep yourself accountable.  Anything is possible if you have a plan.  But without action, a plan is just a piece of paper.

  4. Tackle things in bite size chunks

    Think big!  But break it down.  See the bigger picture but digest it and action it one step at a time.  Give yourself the time required to follow through each step properly.   Creating daily, weekly, monthy habits to help achieve your goals organically.

  5. Lack of knowledge creates lack of confidence

    And lack of confidence can stop you in your tracks!  Learn as much as you can and ask as many questions as you can think of to get to where you need to be.  Research! research! research! or find a mentor or a guide to to help you through.


    And here’s an extra one so you remember to stop and smell the roses…

  6. Follow your passions and take some time out

    Don’t forget your hearts desire in all of this.  If you love running, run.  If the deep blue sea is your thing, surf.  If it’s car racing, flying planes, footy or bushwalking – DO IT, make time for it!  Use these things as much for the body as the mind.  If you’re lacking motivation today, think about the things that you’re doing in life that aren’t work related.  Have you given yourself some time too?  And passions don’t necessarily have to be outcome driven – even some fresh air, gardening, a brisk walk, or some time with family and friends is a great way to shake away that brain fog and make things clearer.



About the Author:  John Pidgeon is Solvere’s Director and Head Property Coach.  He has an education degree and is also a qualified mortgage broker who has been teaching people in sport, education and property for 20 years.  If you’re worried about your financial future, he’s also offering free 90 minute sessions (valued at $300) to get you back on track.  Click through for all the details.



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